No relationship is perfect. Fights, disputes, and misunderstandings will come and go. Oftentimes, many people are hesitant and have a hard time when it comes to apologizing. Sorry is one of the words that are considered the hardest to say because of ego and pride issues. But try to look at apologizing as a time to heal and strengthen a friendship.

With today’s technology, you can just effortlessly type your letter on the computer and send it to them through email or private message. This is one of the big no-no’s when apologizing for hurt feelings. This is not a business transaction for you to be that formal; rather this is a friendship that is being resolved. It would be more appreciable to write these letters in special papers such as stationery. In this way, you can show your sincerity once they have seen your effort in handwriting the letter.

When you apologize, take your time on reflecting what went wrong. Be concise about the cause of the hurt feelings. Use words that will effectively communicate your thoughts and feelings. Always be honest and sincere when you are apologizing. Tell the person your side, your feelings and your sentiments about the matter. Never be afraid to admit your mistakes and ask for forgiveness. And lastly, assure them that you will make up for the wrongdoings that you have done. Below is an example of a letter on how to apologize for hurt feelings.

SAMPLE LETTER

May 26, 2010

Dear Jenna,

I sincerely apologize for the way that I behaved at last night’s slumber party. I was in a very bad mood because I had a fight with my mom. She won’t allow me to go out because I had to babysit my brother. We’ve talked about the slumber party a few weeks already but we had to go through a big fight before she let me go. That bad mood was even intensified by the traffic that I experienced while I was on my way to your house. However, I know that these are not an excuse for the things that I said to you.

I’m sorry if I yelled at you when you were just throwing a silly joke about me. It was too immature of me and I realized too late that you were just kidding. I thought you were serious about me not invited to your birthday bash because I was too occupied with my being a college freshman. I know I’ve been busy for the past few weeks and I want to make up for that.

I apologize for the way that I acted. After what I have done, I know that it will be hard for you to forgive and trust me again. But I will do everything to win our friendship back. You’re one of the best friends that I have and I cannot afford to lose you. I promise you that it will never happen again. I hope we can fix this and I’m really sorry. I’ll be waiting for your reply.

Sincerely,

Samantha